Here I want to expose signs of Manipulation in a relationship which will help you to recognize when someone is playing a dishonest game on you.
Manipulation occurs when someone uses mental distortion or dishonest behavior to exert control over you, get you do what they want, especially when it is against your will.
Manipulation in a relationship is often difficult to notice because of emotional attachment. For this reason, this article is aimed at helping you to recognize the subtle signs of manipulation.
10 Signs Of Manipulation in a Relationship
1. Disconnection From Family And Friends:
One of the signs of manipulation in a relationship is isolation from support system. A manipulative partner will want you to be disconnected from your family and friends in order to exert total control over you to get what they want, especially if such family members or friends are aware of their Manipulative tendency. Such a partner knows that if they allow you stay connected with your friends and family that you will become disillusioned and free from their manipulation.
However, a manipulative partner can decide to connect with your support system to get you do want they want. They know you can take advice from your family and friends, so they can connect with your friends or family to get you manipulated. For example, your partner may connect with your mother or close friends depending on the person he or she knows you are closest to and can take advice from, when you want to leave them for what they did wrong to you.
So, whenever your partner expresses dislike for your family and friends for no good reason and want you to disconnect from them, they’re maybe trying to manipulate you.
2. Blaming:
Another way to recognize manipulation in a relationship is through lying and blaming. A manipulative partner is that partner who doesn’t take responsibility for his or her actions, but often seek a way to blaming you for what they did. A manipulator can lie and make you take responsibility for their own actions. For example, a cheating partner whom you caught cheating may blame you for not giving them attention and love, thereby making him or her vulnerable. This is a manipulative tactic you must recognize and neutralize.
3. Making You Feel Guilty:
If your partner often makes you feel guilty of no obvious reason, you are being manipulated. They make you feel guilty for not doing anything just to get you pander to their whims and Caprices. In most cases, they intentionally do something and craftily put the blame on you to distort your reality and get what they want.
4. Threats:
Threat is a sign that your partner is not into you but only manipulating you. A manipulative partner may adopt threat as a tool to compel you into doing what they want. For example, a manipulator may threaten to quit a relationship with you if you do not do what they want. They may not want to quit but this is a strategy to get you do their bidding. You must guard your emotion not to fall into their pit of manipulation. There is no need why you should keep a partner who threatens you with a quit for any reason if you have tried to let him or her change to no avail.
5. Withdrawal of Entitlement:
A manipulative partner might withdraw affection, attention and emotion in order to get you do what they want. During this period they may cut Communication with you and keep distance from you.
They may withhold sex and other forms of romantic entitlements to incapacitate you into doing their demand. Women are mostly good at doing this one. This is where they exert their bottom power to control men into doing what they want. As a man under this kind of manipulation, you must control your sexual urge to think constructively and escape her gimmick.
6. The Use of Passive-Aggressive Behavior:
A partner who is manipulating you may choose to ignore you, evading Communication with you, or refusing to engage in certain discussions. They’re not willing to express their feelings so that you can understand them.
They may decide, for instance, not to eat, hangout with you, refuse to accept any a gift from you just to get what they want. Furthermore, they may pretend to be angry or sick to get your attention.
7. Making Doubt Yourself:
If your relationship is making you to question your sense of self, you might probably be under the influence of manipulation. A manipulative partner may craftily impose on you the responsibility of an action you know nothing about and make you begin to question yourself and doubt your reality.
You maybe hurt, for instance, by your partner and instead of apologizing when you complain, he or she may claim that you are being pretentious. They will say you are too domineering when you try to curtail their negative behavior and blame you for being responsible for what they’re doing.
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Conclusion:
Recognizing the signs of manipulation in a relationship is the beginning of your freedom, because it will help you to protect yourself. People manipulate others when they believe they can’t get what they want through honest means.
The above signs of manipulation are aimed at helping you to protect your mental health and emotion from the treachery of manipulation. Be smart to recognize when you are being manipulated and protect yourself from a manipulator and emotionally unavailable partner.
