Here I want to share with you tips that can help you to develop a Pleasing Personality and become attractive to other people. If your desire is to become an interesting person at your workplace, at home or in your relationship, I’m confident that following the under listed tips will help you achieve your goal. Let’s get started.
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Meaning of Personality
Personality is a set of psychological, social and non-physical features or qualities a person possesses that distinguishes the person from others. Your personality is a mirror through which others can see you. It determines whether you will be attracted to or repelled by others. It’s what makes you different from others. No two people have the same personality; but one can always improve they personality to become Pleasing.
Your personality is a sure way through which you display your character to the world. And it’s a distinguishing feature through which other people recognize you. Your thought pattern, feelings, beliefs and behaviors shape your personality and through which also they’re revealed.
Remember, your personality determines whether you will be successful or failure in life, because you need interpersonal relationship to achieve your goals in life.
Tips on How to Develop a Pleasing Personality
1. Cultivate a Positive Mental Attitude:
One of the best ways to make your personality Pleasing is by cultivating a positive mental attitude. Your mental attitude determines whether people are attracted to you or not. A positive mental attitude makes one attractive to other human beings, and a negative mental attitude repels people. A positive mental attitude is a Pleasing trait that reveals everything positive which doesn’t tolerate negativity. People may know whether your mental attitude is positive or not through psychic means or telepathy. People can tune in into your personality and discover whether your mental attitude is positive or negative. You can also reveal your mental attitude through your words, body language and facial expression. This is to say that, you cannot hide your mental attitude. Therefore, you must keep your mental attitude positive if you want people to be attracted to you.
2. Maintain a Sincerity of Purpose:
Insincerity and lack of honesty are traits which can make one unattractive to other people. No one can confidently trust someone who is not sincere in they relationships with other people. Someone who has the habit of manipulating, deceiving and defrauding others can never be trusted and accepted by others. Insincerity is one character trait that destroy any relationship. It’s like a poison to the soul of interpersonal relationship. You must endeavor to demonstrate sincerity and honesty in your dealings with other people, if you want to exude a Pleasing Personality.
3. Build Your Enthusiasm:
Enthusiasm is a means through which we can give force to our words and it makes our personality pleasing. Showing excited interest or eagerness in your dealings with people can make you attractive and acceptable. Demonstrate enthusiasm in your human interaction and remember to control it so as not to give others room to get into your mind and influence you negatively.
4. Develop a Mental Flexibility:
This is about conditioning your mind to adjust yourself in your relationship with others in every situation. The differences in human behaviors makes it imperative that you develop a flexible mental attitude which allows you to get along easily with people. It’s true that you cannot control how people treat you, but you can control how you react to them through the development of a flexible mental attitude. Developing a flexible mental attitude will protect you from people making you angry or unhappy.
5. Be a Good Conversationalist:
Being a good conversationalist is indeed a sure way to making your personality pleasing, and it consists in paying a close attention to others when they’re speaking. Do not try to speak without listening to the other to speak. Speaking without listening can cause resentment and can make one an intolerable person. Give people the chance to express themselves by listening to them attentively, and you will be accepted and cherished. It’s better to be a good listener than a talker; a good listener pays attention to learn and allow others to pour out their emotions.
6. Do not Flatter:
Flattering people makes you unacceptable and repulsive. Nobody tolerates insincere praises. Flattering causes resentment because it’s a compliment not rendered in good fate. Praises are considered flattering when praises are not necessary; it’s often done with the intention of getting favor.
7. Stop Finding Fault in the World and People:
Always finding fault in the world and people instead of focusing on what is right and good aspect aspect of life is an indication that you have a negative mental attitude and it doesn’t make one attractive to others. Always center your conversation on what is right and off what is wrong. Discipline yourself to see the good sides of every challenge or failures and by so doing, you are cultivating a Pleasing Personality.
8. Appeal to People’s Self-interests
Emphasizing on your illness, problems and worries may attract you temporary sympathy, but it doesn’t make you attractive to other people. Focus on the aspect of your life that interest others or talk about the person with whom interact. Speaking about people’s interest and concerns get them glued to you and makes you very attractive. Whenever you meet people, find out what the person’s interests and concerns are and strike a conversation from there and you will become lager than life before the eyes of such a person.
9. Abstain from Giving Unsolicited Advice:
Volunteering unsolicited advice may make you feel real good but it’s a sure way to making yourself an intolerable person. Giving unsolicited advice causes resentment in the heart of the person presumed to be receiving it. Give advice when necessary and restrict yourself from giving unsolicited admonishment.
10. Respect other people’s opinions:
Openly challenging other people whose opinions don’t align with yours is a sure way to making yourself an unwelcomed fellow. When people do not agree with you, discipline yourself to respect their views and opinions, for no one hates their own opinion. So, challenging people because they don’t agree with you is unacceptable and wrong. Learn to get along with others by respecting their perspectives.
11. Smile to Others:
Smiling when speaking with others shows a Pleasing Personality and it shows one’s state of mind and character. Smile is contagious; when you smile it induces others to smile in return. Always wear a smiling face and you will be attractive and acceptable to other people.
12. Learn not to Express Every of Your Thought:
It’s not every of your thought that you should express. Some of your thoughts can be injurious to others if you express them. So, learn to control the expression of your thought that may cause resentment to others. You must be careful in expression of thoughts in connection to religion, politics and people’s personal lives. Topics related to these subjects can be delicate and, therefore, demands carefulness.
In Conclusion:
It’s worthy to note that the importance of a Pleasing Personality cannot be overemphasized in achieving success and in building a healthy relationship. The development of pleasing personality involves building behavior traits, developing effective communication, imbibing ethical conducts and intentionally building interpersonal relationship skills.
Avoiding the use of sarcasm, being open-minded, desisting the expression of superiority through actions or words and being happy with other people’s success are all pleasing personality traits you must cultivate and adopt for you to pleasing and acceptable. Good luck!
